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What does it mean when you reject a prospective client or even a current client?
It doesn’t mean anything except that you are clear on your priorities and that client does not fit into them.
School taught you that rejection is bad. And it is bad… for SHEEP. So most of us run the risk of feeling “bad” when we do this. We were trained to hate it when it happens to us. And we were trained to KNOW it is also a tool we can use on others.
But that’s because we were trained to be sheep. And sheep want to fit in. That’s how sheep get controlled.
But as I’ve discovered, this type of rejection is a bastardized version of what it’s really about. “Rejection” is the product of clarity.
Do you have clarity? You can tell by the number of things to which you say NO.
If you have ANY clue about what you want and where you are going, then by definition, most of the things/places/people/opportunities available to you will simply NOT be right for your path.
So you will learn to say NO. Or you will be forced to endure the suffering that comes with the lack of that ability.
Rejection is not good or bad except for the story that is placed around it.
Even the word casts a shadow of meaning that doesn’t actually exist.
Can anyone “reject” you if you don’t feel rejected? If not, then where is the true meaning of the word hiding?
How can it even exist? Is it a verb? Is it a perception?
Can Bob really reject you if you don’t want to be around Bob? Can he reject you if you don’t really care if he wants you there or not?
Can you reject Bob? Really?
I would argue that REJECTION is not in any one individual’s power to effect.
Rejection is a recipe involving two players. You must have a rejector and a rejectee.
So perhaps it’s best to stop thinking of “No” as rejection. It’s not that when you do it, it’s not that when it’s done to you.
These are signals for which you can be grateful.
What a blessing that you could receive such a clear signal about which way NOT to go?
Life is important. It’s best not to misuse it in places or with people that don’t belong in your story.