The Desert of Arizona
Sunny 60 Degrees
I have this habit that, over the years, would have been nice NOT to have. You might refer to it as, the Guru Syndrome.
The way it works is really simple.
Someone shows up on my life or business radar that seems to have it all together. At the very least, they have some of the things I want in my own life.
At that point, my eyes tend to get covered over by these special glasses that anoint that individual as THE answer to all of my problems.
From that point on, I go through my life disconnected from reality. It’s like my clarity has a filter on it created by my perception of this individual.
You can do this with friends, colleagues, business gurus and a long list of folks in between.
I realize now that doing this, putting people on these high pedestals, is just another example of how you “give your power” away to other people. I was highly trained in that skill over the years. And despite my best efforts, there are still remnants of the virus lurking here and there.
No one can tell you what to do. That’s your job to figure out. Yes you can get advice and request counsel from people who have skills and/or experience you don’t yet have, but that’s not a substitute for your own critical thinking and decision making abilities. You never want to disengage those.
As author Michael Brown says, “No one is coming to save you.” When you work with clients, it’s easy to think this client or that client is going to change your life. The day you give up that false hope is the day you begin to take true responsibility for your own life.
Send the gurus off to heaven and give them some peace. Then get back in the driver’s seat of your own life and business where you belong.