The Client Letter
August 2, 2013
Arizona
Sunny 65 Degrees
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
From the outside looking in, it might look like I’m a pretty calm person.
In fact, I’ve been described as “zen like” sometimes which I always find interesting.
I’m getting there. But the fact is, often on the inside, I’ve got my little soap opera of the week going in my mind and being.
I used to have this little path that many of my clients would take. I’d start working with them, but over time, I’d start to dislike it.
“““““““““““““““
There aren’t many things I’m able to do at a “world class” level. But this is something where I’m confident I DO qualify:
“““““““““““““““
Eventually, I’d “blow things up” and start over.
I’m not sure how it looked from the outside, but on the inside, it’s not a happy place to be in when you do something like that.
Drama, drama, drama, drama.
The problem is very simple. Instead of watching the drama, I stepped into the drama.
But these days, something else is happening. I’m not trying to do it, it just seems to happen on its own.
I feel that same build up of annoyance sometimes. But then, it’s like that bubble of toxic goo just pops and disappears.
The slate is cleaned and I continue on with the work.
No new clients needed. I just keep the same ones.
The trick is to treat it just like you’re watching something on TV.
You’re not IN the show, you’re just watching it.
Now I haven’t owned a TV since about 2006, but I’ve wasted enough hours of my life before then to have the habit down cold.
Think of a client who just drives you nuts. Then step back OUT of the situation and just start watching it without comment.
Eventually, when you develop your ability to detach FULLY, you can do the work (and reap the benefit) without getting pulled into the muck.
The drama is your story. And it is very, VERY heavy to carry around. What if you decided to just drop the story, do the work, and focus on enjoying your life?