The Desert of Arizona
Sunny 76 Degrees – 12:48 p.m.
Somewhere we got the idea that one person wanting X and another person wanting Y was “conflict.”
Where could that have come from?
As best I can tell, this is a sheep program designed to create an emotional feeling of discomfort when YOUR will butts heads with someone else’s will. I’ll let you fill in the blanks about how that could be useful for certain groups of people with an overblown authority complex. For now, we’ll move on…
Being that I was once a card-carrying member of “Sheeps-R-Us of America,” I know this feeling well. It ran my life for a LONG time.
“Must avoid conflict, must avoid conflict, coming sir, right away sir, what would YOU like me to say, think and do sir? I will do anything to avoid ‘conflict!'”
If you think about this with a rational mind, why would an event where it becomes clear that someone else’s will does not align with YOUR will ever make you feel uncomfortable?
That’s something to ponder, because it’s a completely fabricated LIE that ruins a lot of people’s lives.
And when you’re working with clients, the amount of chaos this lie can cause is without limits.
So on to a way forward out of this mess…
The first step is awareness–to become aware that this is an issue for you. If avoiding “conflict” runs your life, like it did mine for a long time, it shouldn’t be hard to become aware of it. Heck, you probably can’t make a move without running right into it!
The next step is to realize that your perception of this type of an event as “conflict” is simply a story you accepted as true. It’s a story you legitimize each and every time you allow it to control you.
The key isn’t to avoid conflict or to learn how to meet it head on. The real key is to realize that what you currently define as “conflict” probably isn’t.
You can’t (immediately) change the world. You CAN (immediately) change how you perceive the world.
Perhaps it’s time to delete your existing conflict program and write a new one?
What would happen if nothing anyone else did or said controlled you?