Giving Up the Need For Others to Know

Mountains of Arizona
Partly Cloudy 76 Degrees, 8:11 a.m.

There was a time in my work with clients where I drank the Kool-Aid about how certain work was “beneath” me.

Working for FREE, for instance. Only a loser would do that. If you work for free, or do work on spec, then why would you ever get paid? That’s the kind of thinking I bought into for a while.

I’ll be clear. If you’re just starting out, then any wise individual will tell you that experience is far more valuable than money. So back then, I should have just shoved my ego in a sack and started working.

But I was listening to this breed of professional service provider (and I use the word professional loosely here) who practiced delivering a scathing rebuke to any client “silly” enough to ask for cheap work.

This is an extreme sign of insecurity.

Perhaps clients who ask for cheap work are not the right ones for you. A simple “No thank you.” will deal with them very efficiently.

The rest of that immature garbage can just be forgotten. You don’t need them to know the rest of the details about why you think you’re so much more valuable than what they want.

You only need others to know if you are looking to GET something from that knowing. And if that’s what you’re after, then you’ve just identified a place to grow.

Give up your need to make sure others “know.” This is just one more way we seek validation. When you knowing the truth is enough, you will dramatically shift the energy you are broadcasting to the world.

And with that change follows a change in the reality you experience.