The Client Letter
July 18, 2013
Arizona
Sunny 84 Degrees
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I’m not one of those people who can do things just for the money.
Before you jump to the conclusion that I’m somehow more evolved than the average Joe, let me put your mind at ease. I’ve tried many times to do things just for the money. It’s just never really worked out for me.
I’ve fallen for pursuing quick riches just like most people. And had those pursuits worked out, I imagine I might have continued. But those things never worked out. I never chanced upon a strategy that dropped millions in my lap. And I never discovered a loophole in the system somewhere that I milked until the well ran dry.
Why I’ve never been able to do something like that, I don’t know. And at this point, I’ve given up caring.
Here’s what I do know:
I have this “affliction” where I actually have to enjoy my work or I just won’t last long. It’s always been that way and I don’t think it’s something I’m able to change. It’s just how I’m wired. And over the years, I’ve come to realize that my inability to do things “just for the money” (for any extended period of time) is actually a constraint I should embrace. These days, it’s slowly becoming a non-negotiable part of my life.
My goal is to make a living doing what I love.
Sadly, I can’t tell you that if you do what you love, the money will follow. I wish that were always true. To be frank, doing what you love doesn’t always lead to great riches.
But I don’t think you do what you love because the money will follow, I think you should do what you love because why would you spend your life doing anything else?
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What to Do About the “Rational” Reflex
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Coming at life from such an “idealistic” point of view immediately triggers the “realistic” reflex. That’s the device we’ve all been trained to use to reinforce our story about what is and what is not possible. It keeps us in line. It keeps us under control.
“I can’t just go doing what I love…” we say. “I have a family to support…” “I have obligations…” “I can’t just do that…”
These are all valid and quite rational responses to the idea of making a living doing what you love.
And it’s your choice whether or not you want to allow your life to be governed by these creations.
The fact is, in 90 years, no one reading this will be here. 90 years is a blip. It’s going to be over before you blink. That means that everything matters and nothing matters all at the same time.
Sit for a moment and see how your brain comes to terms with an idea like that. It’s not something that’s meant for your brain, it’s an idea that’s directed right at your soul.
People have been making “rational” choices about their livelihood for centuries. But one look at the current state of world affairs and it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that the choices we’ve been making have led us to a very sad place.
People endure decades of misery in pursuit of making a living in the way they’ve been told to do it.
They have been brainwashed into believing they are “caught” and cannot escape. Little do they know that their walls are of their own making. Little do they know, that in their pocket is the key to unlock the door that blocks them.
Something needs to change. And that something begins with you. It begins with your choices about how you are going to live your life.
It begins with your decision to walk towards the dreams you have for yourself. This isn’t a journey you start in order to reach “success.” It’s a journey you start because pursuing your dreams is something worthy of your life.
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Why Millions of People Practice Things They
Don’t Want to Be Good At
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As evolved as we think we are as humans, history has shown we’re not too many steps removed from the animal kingdom. Once the luxuries of modern life are stripped away, our similarity to animals becomes very clear, very quickly.
But there’s one trait animals don’t display that we “evolved” humans do. I can’t think of any animal that would willingly pursue an activity it didn’t feel was in its own best interest.
It certainly wouldn’t do it 8 hours a day… for years and years.
But we humans do this all the time. We do it for many reasons. We do it because we’re told to do it. We do it because we’re worried about what others might think of us if we didn’t. We do it because we don’t know any better. We do it because we don’t believe in ourselves. We do it because we’re scared of the alternatives.
And that’s why, on any given morning, millions of people in this world trudge off to spend their days doing things they hate with people they can’t stand. They spend 30% of their life practicing things they have no interest in being good at.
And when they eventually do become good at those things, they have to search for something to fill the void that the “right work” is meant to fill.
“But what else would I do to make a living? What else could I do?”
I used to think that I had to have answers to those questions in order to move forward. I searched long and hard for those answers, but they never came like I wanted. I wanted a bolt of lightening… but all I ever got was a spark. One spark here… another spark there.
These days, I realize that the journey to freedom begins not with my ability to answer questions but my ability to ask questions and then take a step.
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The Easy Life or a Life Well Lived?
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For me, my answers began to appear only well after I was willing to set sail and DO.
The answers are in the doing. That’s the secret I’ve discovered.
Making a living doing what you love certainly isn’t the easy way through life. I’m not sure easy is the goal. I’m not sure easy is even valuable.
For me, school was easy. It was also empty. Years of coughing up the right answer as ordered, like a trained dog… and for what?
It’s only after I began my journey to make a living doing something I loved that I truly began to live. It’s one of the greatest challenges I’ve faced. It’s also been the richest and most rewarding. And I’m just getting started.
In my opinion, pursuing the challenge of making a living doing what you love is a direct route to a life well lived. And given how brief the time we’re all given is, I don’t think there’s a more worthy destination than that.