The Desert of Arizona
Cloudy and Wet-ish 71 Degrees – 7:20 a.m.
I had this repeating pattern from about 2003 until about 2015:
I’d find someone in my life or business who I thought could be “the one” to show me what I needed to know. Once I found that person, I’d learn a bunch from them and elevate them to the pedestal of potentially being “the one!” It was exciting!
But soon it would become obvious I wasn’t going to find what I was looking for; I’d realize they were not “the one,” and I’d continue my search elsewhere.
By blowing through all of these gurus and guides I thought I was getting closer to finding “the one” that would help me break through.
After all, if I looked long enough, I’d eventually find THE ONE for me!
Ha! I thought I was getting somewhere when what I was really doing was going around and around in the same trap over and over again. I thought I was looking for direction, for facts, for guidance. What I was really looking for was someone or something to “save me.”
The idea that you need someone to save you is a trap from the beginning. We’ve been raised with that idea for generations because that idea was installed as part of a control system. It’s worked pretty darn well for thousands of years!
But it’s just part of the control structure and hierarchy.
If you haven’t noticed, hierarchies are breaking down because hierarchies are unsustainable.
For example, the modern day corporate hierarchy isn’t a sustainable structure. That’s why, when you have a business like that, it’s constantly in flux. It simply isn’t a structure that supports life. It’s artificial.
And then when you take that structure and shrink it down to a small business scale, the problems with it are even more obvious, more quickly.
You basically end up becoming a manager of dysfunction when you build out the traditional corporate hierarchy where power and responsibility are focused at the top and the levels extend downward from there.
Long story short, I got tired of all of this searching for “the one” and called off the hunt.
So a few years ago, I gave-up the guru-craze. No one is coming to save me except me. I’ve stopped putting anyone on a pedestal for anything. The program that makes us search for the “missing piece” out there is just an illusion to keep us from doing something real.
Mastery has nothing to do with searching for what you’re missing and everything to do with developing what you have.